When a mistake is made, punishment and recompense are required. It’s the how that seems to get so many fags in trouble. The sub serves when and how his Dominant as the dominant sees fit. Cooking and cleaning are the obvious top duties, with the utility of their bodies being a given byproduct of the whole situation. I’ve talked at length before about in person fag service. After all, you know that disrespect carries punishment… The sub’s cock is just being used as a tool for the Dom. He can order a sub to fuck him, and still be in control. He is after all bottoming for his own pleasure. A Dom can bottom and still be in complete control. The Dom can do whatever sex act he wants and still be in control. He doesn’t have to put on a mask, or adopt a stereotypical/cliché persona. Evolve your thinking.Ī Dom(inant) is someone who, by his very presence, can get a sub to follow his desires and commands. Realize that idea that every self-labeled “Alpha” person yelling on Tumblr isn’t necessarily a true Dom. So let go of the small minded idea that Doms are all tops. If the Dom is in control of the situation, then he is in control. Receiving a cock in a hole is just one of thousands of potential sex acts. The concept of control (Dom) is completely separate from the sex act itself. Degrading acts can be added to bottoming, but in and of itself, there’s nothing to it. Moving along with that, you have to come to the notion that there is nothing wrong or necessarily degrading about bottoming.
If your vision of self worth is so brittle that it can’t handle the idea of a woman being strong, then you have some serious self analysis to do. Women are not less than men, end of story. Women are penetrated by cocks, and women are less than, thus bottoming makes the person less than. Indeed, the whole shaming of bottoming comes from some sort of deep rooted misogyny. Nowhere in the description of a Dom is there anything about topping or bottoming. The actions and tasks that the Dom requires can be vastly different, but the overriding theme is the same: the Dom is in charge, and the Sub works to please him. Through his words, actions, gestures, and intent, the Dom enables the sub to lose themselves in sub space. Quite simply, a Dom is someone who controls the situation whenever he is with a partner. Many of them are an amusingly transparent façade. A tumblr “alpha” isn’t necessarily a true Dom.
Anyone who’s not him has to immediately submit and serve the “Alpha” in whatever the Alpha wants done. He has sex with whomever he pleases whenever he please, and he does so in whatever manner he pleases. By 2017, an Alpha has further devloved into a rude, violent asshole who’s barely one step above an ape. Over time, the real world position of Dom was cartoonishly warped into the Tumblr caricature of “Alpha”. The Bottom is the person being penetrated by the Top’s cock. They release their control and give it to the Dom for the duration of the scene. Though of course the hole being penetrated and the cock itself can take many forms. In the most textbook example, the Top is someone who penetrates the receiving partner with their cock.
Alphas are the types that supposedly control the room, and men look up to them as the pinnacle of what men could and should be. Faggots’ rightful place is submitting to Alphas, etc. What is an Alpha?Įspecially around Tumblr, the word “Alpha” is thrown about constantly.
And if you’re a bottom or vers, you can’t be an Alpha. That to be an Alpha automatically makes you a top. Around tumblr, it seems that far too many believe that Alpha and Top are the same thing.